How To Wilt Your Inner Wallflower: Become The Host With The Most

by Jason Sanders on January 5, 2010 · 1 comment

in Networking

When it’s time to network, do you become a wallflower?  Networking events can be downright scary.  A lot of very competent professionals are intimidated by the prospect of introducing themselves and making “cold connections” with a room full of strangers.  Why is that?

Sometimes it’s because of a lack of preparation or experience.  But most of the time it’s the fear of the unknown and the awkwardness of breaking the ice.  From an intellectual perspective (far removed from the pressure of that networking room) most of us can probably acknowledge that our anxiety is a little silly.  After all, everyone in that room wants the same thing that we want, more business relationships, more business, more sales.  Often a lack of confidence can be switched off as easily as changing our perspective.

This is my challenge to you:

The next time you find yourself in one of those scary intimidating networking settings, instead of being satisfied being the wallflower guest, start acting like the host of the event.  Of course the host would want to meet everyone at the event.  As the host you would be especially interested in what you’re guests are looking for and who they’re trying to connect with.  You might have the opportunity to introduce people who’s businesses would benefit from their connection.  You’re going to be looking around to make sure that everyone is having a good time.  You’re going to be approaching those wallflowers and inviting them into conversations.  You’re going to be asking in depth questions so that those around you can get a better understanding of what each individual has to offer.

Are you up to being the host with the most?  What do you think of this idea?  What tactics do you find to be successful at these types of events?  I’d love to read your input in the comments section!

Jason Sanders @ValuePagesGroup
Business Networking Specialist


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  • http://profile.yahoo.com/T5XOECHAC7FXHNGWAUDJ2FDWIY Laura

    I think a little preplanning is important.  Unless a list is provided in advance, you won’t know who you will meet.  Have three topics in your back pocket that are safe topics.  Talk about favorite foods, travel spots, sports/animals/nature. It is also important to know what not to say.  Stay away from the obvious religion, politics and the less obvious: family.  Unless you know a person very well it is rude to start asking about family.  Also a very important tip:  You aren’t there to eat and drink.  Eat in advance and stay away from the alcohol.

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